The Truth About People.

Often, when we first see someone and observe them from far away, we see how strong and sturdy that individual is. We see them without any problem, it's as if everything goes well for them. So we somewhat have this impression, assumption that, that person is someone who handles their life well.

But little by little, as we get to know them, flaws after flaws of them begin emerging, one after another.

At that point, we'll start to see them as a totally different person than before. Imperfect, flawed, fragile.

But that is not really all that bad. The truth is, everyone is like that. From a distance far enough, everyone seems perfect; like a clean, shiny, glossy surface. Only upon closer look do we see their small cracks, scratches, glued broken pieces, dent, imperfections. Nobody is without flaws.

The only question is, whether we still choose to embrace them, as we embrace ourselves.

Knight.

"A knight in shining armor is a man who has never had his metal truly tested."

"Don't wait for the knight in shining armor. His armor is shiny because he has never been to war. Instead, look for the knight with torn and tettered armor. He is the one who knows how to fight and is sure to be the one who can keep you safe from harm."

– So first I need to train myself to fight harder, be better; improve myself as best as I can. I am, and I will continue to. Persevere!

Question on Love.

When making a big decision regarding love, whether to give it a shot or not. Whether to commit fully or play it safe. Whether to dive in or continue to check the water. The hardest question is always this: "Do I really love him/her?". For me, these are some of the things I experience, which makes me sure of what I'm feeling.

If you are both in good terms, you don't only feel okay. you feel happy.

If you are not in good terms with one another, you feel bad, or sad, and wish it isn't like that.

You worry that you might hurt him/her.

You feel comfortable talking nonsense with that person.

It feels painful thinking of the possibility that that person might end up with someone else and not you.

You feel appreciated, and feel you want to do better for him/her.

You change for the better for him/her.

You become a better person because of him/her.

Sometimes (or always) you just miss that person. You don't really know what to do or what to talk about, but you just want to have an interaction/conversation.

A simple conversation or communication can be the best part of your day.

His/her mood affects your mood.

You're able to not only tolerate, but appreciate little flaws and imperfections that person have.

You keep thinking about him/her.

You hope you'll never leave one another.

You don't mind discussing complicated issues with him/her.

You constantly feel like talking about him/her.

Random things just remind you of him/her.

You care about what he/she cares about.

You compromise for him/her.

You think about your life with him/her.

You factor him/her when planning your future.

You want your friends/family to like that person.

You always make time for him/her.

You feel jealous.

You want him/her to be the first to know every good news or bad news you have.

Even his/her smallest gestures can make you feel better. And simple things can hurt you.

He's/she's the first person you think about.

You think long term.

You feel complete.

That person is your best friend and you can do anything together.

And something to really consider:
Sometimes it's not about who you want to be with, but who you can't be without. If they're the same person, that'd make things a lot simpler.